He Knew Exactly What to Say

Okay, so here’s what I keep thinking about: he always knew exactly what to say. It was like he could see right into my heart and knew all the words I needed to hear. Everything was perfect. Everything felt like it was too good to be true, but I didn’t care because it was everything I had always wanted.

This is where love bombing comes in. Saying all the right things to sweep me off my feet, making me feel like I was on top of the world. And because no one had ever said those things to me before, I ran with it. He made me feel like I was living out my dreams. Red flags? What red flags?! I couldn’t see them—I didn’t want to. I was way too caught up in the fantasy of it all.

One thing that stands out is how he’d always say, “I’m selfish with you.” At the time, I loved that. I thought it meant I was special to him, that I was someone he didn’t want to share with anyone else. It made me feel like I mattered, like I was important. But now? I seriously cringe when I think about it.

Looking back, that’s not love—that’s possessiveness. And it’s not cute or romantic. It’s controlling. I didn’t see it that way when we were together because I thought it was a sign of how much he cared about me. But toward the end, I started to feel suffocated. That “selfishness” didn’t feel good anymore. It felt like I was being isolated, and I hated it.

What I’ve learned is this: when someone is selfish with you, it’s not romantic—it’s a red flag. It’s about control, not love. And I missed that because I was so wrapped up in all the good things. But that’s how love bombing works, right? It blinds you to the bad. It’s designed to pull you in so fast that you can’t even see what’s really happening.

Now, I see it all so clearly. If someone’s love feels too good, if they’re saying all the perfect things but something feels off, trust that feeling. Protect yourself. Open your eyes. I know it’s hard when you’re in the middle of it, but looking back, I can see all the red flags I ignored. And I wish I hadn’t.

But here’s the thing: we live and we learn. Now, I know better, and I hope sharing this helps someone else see the signs sooner. Real love isn’t about control or selfishness. It’s about freedom, trust, and respect.

Does this sound familiar to you? Feel free to share your thoughts below, or message me if you’re going through something similar. You’re not alone in this journey—we’re in this together.